RANT

Okay, this is awesome. I am literally taking time out of our vacation to rant because I am so bugged. Writing things down always makes me feel better though, and honestly if I feel passionate about something enough it is normally something I want to remember, which is what this blog is for anyway, for me, and us to remember things later in our life so if you don't feel like reading this rant I will not be mad and if you do feel like reading this rant and you don't agree that is fine too just don't tell me that today or I might bite your head off, so tell me tomorrow, anyway... rant time!

So last night Drew and I went to the movie Crazy Stupid Love. We were excited to see it, there seemed to be enough romance with a lot of comedy and that is appealing to us. In the middle Drew wanted to leave (that never ever ever happens) which I am still not sure if it is because he knew I was upset or if he was really as uncomfortable as he said he was, but I think it was probably a mixture of both. We ended up leaving at the end with me rushing out before anyone could see that I was crying because I was so angry about the movie, not something that usually happens for me, especially when it comes to romantic comedies. So let me tell you why I HATED that movie.
-first of all the wife cheats on the husband. in our society that is on tv and in the movies and in the media all the time, what is that saying about our society? Is nothing sacred and important anymore? You got bored? You were having a mid-life crisis, you didn't know if you were in love or not anymore? Grow the hell up people! Seriously I am so sick of adults being the one's who are needing to be taken care of by their children because they are so messed up and also that they can't control themselves and do stupid things that have awful consequences for others (spouse, family, children, friends, etc)
-How the husband then goes out becomes "cool" and sleeps with 8 other women. I'm sorry but how in anyway does that help your situation? Half of those women were the same age as his daughter, it's disgusting, it highlights just how much women these days don't respect themselves, and how men don't respect them and we as a society are letting it all happen and laughing about it. Ryan Goslings character even says "men have won and now we just give women the opportunity to be with us" Really? Sick. They also don't highlight in the movie that 1 in 3 people between the ages of 16 and 25 have STDS. That is kind of a big deal, but no! Go sleep with anybody you want! It's not important! Nothing matters! The husband had only slept with his wife and that was it, they shared something special and it was important and he valued that, the wife valued that, and he threw it all away
-Even if he wouldn't have slept with 8 other women the fact that only sleeping with 1 person in your life is now looked down upon in our society and laughed at. That makes me nauseous just thinking about it. People are so stupid. Another thing was that he was with multiple women, after his wife (who by the way they were still married the entire movie) finds out and she starts going on a date with one guy all of a sudden she is the one who is a slut? Sounds like a pretty big double standard to me, the man can go sleep around and do whatever he wants but the woman who went on a DATE with one guy is considered slutty? Good one society
-The fact that the 13 year old son openly talks about masturbating, porn, and then is given naked pictures of his 17 year old crush to "get him through high school" no wonder so many guys are douche bags and why so many relationships are ruined and why families are broken. Sounds like a disaster in the making to me, and it again is objectifying women and saying it is ok to do so.
-That high school girls first of all are sleeping with older men, and second of all are telling other girls how to send naked pictures to men that are their dad's ages because then he "won't look at you like a little girl anymore" and that it works. Awful. The babysitter taking naked pictures of herself to give to the dad of the kids she babysits? And then when that doesn't work giving them to the son? First of all there is obviously no sense of self respect there at all and second that's awful. Awful that girls are doing that, awful that old and young men are taking them up on it, and awful that it is supposed to be funny to us as the viewers
-How when the douche bag guys is with his daughter he even admits to the dad that he doesn't think he will ever be able to change but he loves her, ummmmm??? Red flags. Love doesn't change people. Love temporarily changes people's behaviors when they are with that person and then it wears off and they become the person they have always been. Only people can choose to change themselves. And i'm not saying that can't happen because I know it can, but that seems to be setting up the daughter for a broken heart and possibly a broken marriage and family

I honestly think I could go on and on. It just made me so sad, so sad. There are so many people who have gotten divorces and it is devastating but even in the movie it says "It's only a divorce? Thank heavens, we thought it was cancer! This is great! It's only a divorce people!" What does that say about us as people? I understand that divorce is necessary in some circumstances, but overall it is the wrong decision. 60% of people who get a divorce get a divorce on their second marriages and it goes up from there. 96% of couples who went to couple therapy after infidelity in the relationship stayed together and said that their relationship was stronger than it was before 70% of people who cheated in their first marriage will cheat in their second marriage. Isn't it obvious first of all that those things shouldn't be happening in the first place, but that it is worth it to work on it? Also it is not just a divorce, it is two broken people, two broken hearts, broken lives, broken homes, broken children and an awful reoccurring cycle. It is nothing to be laughed at it is something to be fixed. Families should be valued. They should matter. Love and respect for your spouse or even your boyfriend or girlfriend should matter. Sex should matter. Commitment should matter. Honesty should matter. I just hope that our generation learns but already I can see that we are the stupid girls that go home with the guy we met at the bar, or we are the guy who takes a different woman home every night or the broken family that looks back a year later and wishes that they wouldn't have done all of the things that they did and how it has affected their children.

I have been blessed to not have to know what divorce is like in my family. My parents will be married 31 years in a few weeks. But so many people have been affected by it and it breaks my heart for them and for their own families. Love is worth the fight, but that shouldn't have to be after infidelity, or any huge thing, it should be that way every single day because you love the other person, and it is hard and there are days you also really hate the other person, but in the end it is all worth it. I just hope more people feel that way.

Sorry about the rant.

xo

M